SUPPORT FOR HIM: Men are thinkers and women are feelers.
As we know men and women are very different and their needs in relationships are difficult for the partner to understand. One of the toughest things for the Guy to come to terms with is that when she comes to you with a problem she is not looking for the solution. She wants to share an experience with you. So give this a go. Just listen next time she talks to you, don’t try to fix her, get yourself into a great state don’t try to logically work it out.
Give her your 100% focus and presence. Believe it or not this makes her feel safe and closer to you, fixing her makes her feel like you don’t understand her. Seriously guys don’t try to work this out just do it and providing your there for her see the difference it makes. She will immediately relax. Then without being condescending because she will pick it up straight away if you are the icing on the cake, ask her “and how does that make you feel?” then LISTEN! Nothing else is required I promise. If she needs something else she will ask, just don’t try to fix.
Guys I know it makes no sense and it’s not easy but with practise you can do it, and this one thing will transform your relationship. Watch the trap, I have had guys say to me “I did it and it did not work she started screaming and having a go.” That actually means it did work and she now feels safe enough to get those words out, it’s not about the words it’s about the feeling the words will pass.
Remember 100% presence and LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN.