Can love really be simple? Do we over complicate things when we get into relationships?
Remember the days when you were young and care free…you know when you liked that boy or girl and it was the simple things that melted your heart.
Like that subtle glance across the playground, or getting that little know saying ‘will you be my girlfriend?’ yes? no? tick the box, or carving your names in a tree…ah the innocence of love.
I recently carved our names in a tree…just to remember they way it felt, the look in your partners eyes when they saw it, the innocent feeling of love. We had the kids with us down the park and they too were carving in the tree. I started with my name then recalled back in the day when you write your name hearts your partner name….so I did just that. I called Russell over to show him…his eyes lit up and that innocent and pure feeling of love took over him….we both giggled and smile and embraced the feeling.
So that begs the question – can love really be that simple? Do we over complicate things in our relationships? Do we forget to do the little simple acts – like carving our names into a tree? or making our partner their favourite meal?
We see many couples and the truth is yes…we do forget to do the simple acts and we can over complicate things (or our personality types can)…
Take the movie Bambi for intense…remember in the movie when springtime comes and all the characters suddenly one by one become ‘TWITTERPATED’…they fall in love and you experience the power and simplicity of the pure, innocent acts….that head over heals feeling…that is what the simple things help to recreate.
Sure every couple has challenges and obstacles to overcome…ask yourself honestly do you hold onto these and slowly build up a metaphorical wall between you or your partner (or bring these things up in the heat of an argument?!!) or…
Do you rise above these events, put your relationship first and recreated time and time again simple acts of love? And yes that may mean letting go of being right or your point of view…and it doesn’t matter who goes first – you or your partner, or if you went first last time, or the last 10 times….what matters at the heart of it is that the two of you come back together…lay your weapons down…reconnect, feel the love…only from that place can we truly heal the hurts from an argument or work through things…LOVE is at the heart of it.
So I challenge you today, to do a simple act of love for you partner…start with 1 a day…if that’s too much of a stretch start with 1 a week…just start…it will become easier and easier…like learning to ride a two wheeler bike for the first time…at first your dad or mum is still holding onto the back whilst you begin to gain balance then they let go for a minute and then two and then three and all of the sudden whoohooo you are riding the bike all on your own…so start today…create simple acts of love for your partner….write them a note, make a heart out of rose petals, make their favourite meal, send them a loving text message, carve your names in the tree, hold hands like your holding for the first time, give them a shoulder rub just because you’ve seen they’ve had a hard day (even if you have had a hard day too)….
So here’s to creating the simple acts of love more and more in our relationships…
