When they asked Michelangelo how he made his statue of David he is reported to have said,
“It is easy. You just chip away the stone that doesn’t look like David.”
Lets chip away at what’s not you and then see what’s left, The best make over ever you will love the results.
No matter who I speak to everyone has some version of the Voices in their head. For some they are persistent and overwhelming, for others they just niggle away constantly.
For all they are predominately negative and full of doubt.
The problem for most people is that they identify with the voices as being who they are.
Language is both one of the most powerful and most destructive tools that we have, some would say that what I am about to suggest is just semantics, that would however miss the point and the opportunity to change in a profound way.
Many people who attend one of our programs come because they are Depressed, Anxious, Stressed, Angry, Etc.
As we begin to break down the stories that go round and round in our heads and become more accurate in our description of what is going on a new and freeing paradigm emerges.
This may seem a little simplistic at first, it has been proven time and time again to work though. And like anything that is new it takes practise, time and faith to become an expert.
Often people will judge something and that will stop them giving it a go. A much more powerful thing to do is to take it on until you get to a point where you have mastered it, and then if you don’t want it, don’t use it. There really is not that much to lose.
That way at least you know what you’re not using.
It makes no difference how you separate yourself from the voices in your head. So this is how I suggest you do it for now.
Refer to them as “IT”
IT is depressed. IT is Angry. IT is Anxious. IT is tired. Etc.
Once you do this you are beginning to separate who you are from the thoughts and voices you previously believed were you.
This is not Schizophrenic, that is something different which I am not going to explain now I bring it up though because if I don’t
IT will go “oh no I’m Schizophrenic” and you don’t want to do that until you have got the hang of this process.
This does not absolve you of responsibility as to how you act, do not cross contextualize. It is simply a technique to allow you a greater level of peace and happiness in your live.
IT is on automatic, it is a program that runs when you wake up. Just like a computer program that runs when you switch on your computer.
Windows 8 is not your computer though, your computer is made up of many parts.
You are not your thoughts or the voices you are made up of many parts.
Here are some good questions to ask….
What is it saying now about…..?
Your parenting skills, your relationship, your partner, your self-worth, your problems, why your unhappy, what you need to be happy, why your tired, why your stressed, what you have to do, your kids, your friends, your lack of friends.
The list is endless.
IT has a strong opinion about everything.
Once you get a list of what IT things go through the list and ask
Why does IT thing that and how long has it thought that for?
Do I actually thing that?
Start to notice if any of the IT statements are something you took on from someone else in your life when you were younger, often this will be a parent or grandparent.
Everyone has some area in their life they want to improve on no matter how great they are doing.
The first process of change is to begin to break down the stories you have created about yourself, your life and your partner.
Undertaking this process will begin to chip away at that.
Make a start, you have nothing to lose.
If you want to learn more about this process you can join me for an evening of discovery…
email your interest to russell@infiniteandco.com
The evening is free. The learning is priceless.